Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Callused Hearts
The night before we went to the hospital I was extremely anxious and (as hard as it is for me to admit) scared of how I would respond to walking into the hospital again after my experience there last time. My roommate wrote me a letter the night before I went to the hospital and said to me, “It’s okay to be devastated. But, don’t you dare let a single callous form on your heart. It’s a survival tactic for you, but a death sentence for those babies. Have God’s heart…and let his strength carry you through it.” But, I did not want my experience there to cloud my vision of what I was supposed to see today. I wanted the faces and circumstances of the children and women in the room to be my concern. But…inevitably I knew emotions would come back from my time with Allie. As much as it hurts to truly allow myself to feel…she has shaped who I am in a deeply profound way, but not at the expense of being able to be there for others in that hospital…it only strengthened my understanding.
I’ve said this before…I’ll say it again…it is not…it is NOT okay that children die because they do not have enough food. It is NOT okay that children die of diarrhea. It is NOT okay that children are dying because they have malaria or a “cold” or any other disease that can be cured in the United States at the snap of a finger.
Seven months ago I walked in to this hospital and my heart was shattered. Walking in again there were a new set of stories that needed to be told. When you think your heart can’t be broken anymore…your hurt grows deeper. Last time I held child after child, but this time, for whatever reason...I felt God telling me to focus on the mothers. I still held babies burning with fever and writhing in pain from malnutrition, but I wanted to emphasize to the mothers their importance. Our team sat with them, asked them how they were doing and offering to pray for them if we could. I really wanted my words to convey to them how strong and courageous they were for standing by their child and taking care of them in their time of need. How easy it would be to just give up and leave. The fight seems too grave. I wanted them to know that they were loved and thought about as well. These people are forgotten. I wanted them to know…that we know. If you saw this hospital…you would say the same thing. They need someone…they need YOU…to fight for them!
In June our team had gone to the ICU, where I met Allie, but because things in there are rather hectic, Erica decided our large team should try to stay out of their way and serve the other rooms instead. But, as our team was nearing the end of our time there I looked over at the nurse’s station and locked eyes with one of the nurses. She got the hugest smile on her face and we both ran over to one another. She said, “You were with baby Allie so many months ago.” I nodded speechless. “You remember me??” “Of course I do,” she replied, “You loved her and cared for her. You loved her as your own. But we lost her.” Chills came over my body and I asked her if any of the other nurses I was with were there. She took my hand and took me back to the room where baby Allie changed my life 7 months ago. I saw the security guard who helped me while I was there and he remembered me too. Chills continued to cover my body as I walked with Monito, hand in hand. As I walked back into the room where the team was still visiting with patients, a woman and a severely malnourished little boy followed me into the room and asked the security guard if they could speak to me. The little boy was 4 and his mother had passed away. The woman had traveled from fifteen miles outside of Freetown to get this little baby treatment. You could see every bone in this child’s body. Every rib, vertebrae, every bone down to his pelvic girdle…he was a miniature walking skeleton. Erica gave them money to help get food while they waited for the doctors to see them, but before I walked away I asked the little boy’s name and the woman looked me in the eye and said, “Ali.” I’d like to say I immediately broke down crying but more than anything I was frozen. I placed my arm on the woman and asked, “May I pray for you and Ali?” I don’t think I’ve ever prayed such strong words over someone. I don’t think I’ve prayed such words over anyone as I prayed over these mothers, grandmothers, fathers, and children.
We have no concept of what it is like to go without. We have no concept of what it feels like to function around poverty like this. I cannot even presume to know the suffering and heartache that these people endure.
Each of us has brokenness. We have each experienced things in life that have hurt us deeply. All of those things shape who we are positively or negatively. And we each have a choice in how we respond to the difficult situations in life that we are faced with. We’ve each had to allow God to carry us through suffering. But I think we view our suffering in the U.S. a bit backwards.
I guess what I’m saying is…we all have callouses on our hearts. But what I see a lot is, that we never allow ourselves to feel the emotions enough to truly heal from something…to truly move beyond whatever tribulations we encounter. I think often times we spend so much of our lives getting over whatever tribulation we’re encountering that we put on our tunnel vision and only focus on ourselves. We cover our hearts with so many callouses we never have room to let someone else in…or…serve someone else who truly needs it. I don’t mean to be rude when I say this and I’m CERTAINLY speaking to myself as well…but…get over it! We need to stop letting our hearts be calloused and holding us hostage from being a stronghold to the world around us. Because these people need us! They need our brokenness. They need our hearts to be softened to remember that they are there and need our help! We need to get over ourselves.
I saw calloused hearts in the eyes of so many today that truly need us! Calloused hearts of desperation. Their eyes are glazed over, void of any emotion. How else do you cope while helplessly watching your child die?
I only hope they heard a word today from one of the 25 people in that room…to know that there is a God who knows and loves them. There are people who know about them and are willing to fight. Our team shirts say, “I will fight…for the one who is exploited, broken, trafficked, abandoned, stolen, abused, forgotten, orphaned…we will win.” We. Will. Win. These mothers need to know that they are known and someone is fighting on their side. Someone who says...this is NOT right! And, we will NOT be defeated.
When I sat with Allie 7 months ago, I quietly whispered in her ear describing the world she had awaiting her. All of the beautiful things she had yet to taste, feel and see. I prayed those words over every child I saw today. Because, it’s true…each life has a story to tell and “where you live shouldn’t determine whether you live” (Bono.) Know that the same is true for you…you have a story to tell through and in the midst of your brokenness. But where we live shouldn’t determine whether we only care about ourselves. I’ll leave you with the words to the song I sang that day to Allie…and know these words are true for all of us…and have the ability to move us to action to make a difference in a world that so desperately needs us to fight for the forgotten…
“Our God is Greater, our God is stronger, God you are higher than any other. Our God is HEALER awesome in power, our God…our God. And if our God is for us, then who could ever stop us and if our God is with us…then what could stand against?!” What could stand against us? Our own calloused hearts?
Praying my heart would be Softened,
Reg
P.S. I have to say, it was so beautiful and a privilege to watch such a large team experience this together today. It was an honor serving side by side with such a strong team! Almost 15 more people have now tasted and seen this crime against humanity and can go home to tell the stories of the forgotten.
Monday, January 24, 2011
Take joy my king
Then, we organized all of the presents each group had collected for the children. Each child received a backpack and outfit. The boys received 5 toy cars and the girls received a doll, necklace and bracelet. Each team member is responsible for 4-5 children and we were able to pick out and collect our children’s gifts and give them to them. It was like Christmas. I’m not a parent, but I got a glimpse of how it must feel on Christmas night after you’ve carefully picked out gifts for your child and you take a picture of them all so neatly placed out before the kids come barreling in to tear in to them. What a simple joy!
At the end of today we had a Carnival Day for the kids, as well! The kids rotated from game to game: hula-hooping, face-painting, nail painting, football, bowling, golf and much more. For each game they won a certain amount of money and then could buy prizes at our prize store! Simple games, simple fun, which fostered joy in the hearts of each child!
One story I would like to share is about one of our team members, Hailey. She has 8 children that she sponsors here at the center. The last time she traveled to Sierra Leone she felt a very special maternal connection to these 8 siblings. As we were collecting our items for the kids I looked over and watched as she carefully picked out gifts for her 7 boys and 1 girl. It was more than beautiful watching her pick out those gifts with such an obvious joy and compassion for those children. It was simple. But it was deep unending love she was exhibiting. It’s hard not to show that type of love to these kids, but do I show it to the people in my life back home?
For the rest of the afternoon we played with the children as they opened their gifts and helped them pick out a new pair of flip-flops. These children take so much pride in their belongings. It makes sense though. You cherish what you have once you’ve had nothing. The simple act of giving them a shirt lights up their hearts more than you can imagine. Gift Giving. Another simple way to say…I care about you…I take notice of you.
This morning we went in to the community around the center to families who we know of that are in great need. We split up into groups and went with a translator to these houses and met the mothers and children. While with them we were able to offer a small monetary gift in TRS’ name and ask if we could pray for them. It seems so simple to be able to walk up to someone you see in need and offer them a few dollars and feel like you some how deserve a medal for your good deed. One of our team members, Amy Coggin (who is also on her second trip), spoke some incredible words while we were out. We had just left a home and were traveling to the next when she began to cry at and said, “It seems so self-righteous of us…we have so much and yet I feel like we’re just throwing them scraps.” Her heart was breaking. She spoke beautifully the words my heartbreaks for too. Lori, another team member said, “You’re placing words on what many of the team is probably feeling but don’t know how to express yet.” But, you know…we have to do something. We can’t just see and not do something. And as I said before…a relationship starts with something small and as you build trust those simple acts grow and foster something bigger, something deeper. Amy had said a prayer just moments before where she said, “God help these people to know how much you love them and how special they are. Help them to know that we love them.” Simple words, right? But more than important for us to hear and hold true!
It does feel self-righteous to just go and give a bit of money and turn around and go home and live our lavish, privileged lives. But, I have to believe that being broken to this need in front of us has to start somewhere. It starts with something simple. It starts with giving someone a small token of our love for them as a human being; introducing yourself and saying “You matter to me. I will fight for you.” If we don’t, who will?
Simply Choosing to Love,
Regina
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Good Intentions
Intentionally and Unconditionally (hah), Regina
Home Sweet Home!
I left Nashville with quite a heavy heart. Half of my mind has been on this incredible trip ahead of us and the other half struggling to let go of the things back at home I have facing me. But, I was not even through security in Nashville when I began crying and was able to begin to shed home and focus solely on what God has awaiting our team. And the second I stepped foot off the plane and saw the “Freetown Airport” sign and smelled that lovely smell that says “you’re in Sierra Leone” the excitement hit me that tomorrow I’ll be bombarded by a massive amount of children waiting for nothing but love! And I cannot wait to give it to them!
Oh…and I have a boyfriend in Belgium. He works in security. He checked my bag and, as he tragically confiscated my Nutella, he told me I must be an angel and asked if I would like to sit with him on my layover and eat the Nutella with some bread…or perhaps just a spoon? Hah! I politely declined. Dear Men in America, I’d have a boyfriend a lot faster if I lived abroad. Haha. J
Tomorrow we hit the ground running! We’ll be going to Kroo Bay in the morning to feed 5000 children! Just the thought of this amazes my mind! We’ll be bringing through 2500 children who will get two meals and will be taking one back to another child at their home. The Raining Season will be documenting who gets the meals and another Feeding Program will happen again in February.
Our team is staying at the guesthouse The Raining Season now runs. Comfy chairs and couches, an amazing cook, bunk beds…it’s so cool to see so much growth in just six months! But as is life in Sierra Leone…the electricity went out about an hour ago and although I showered I’m already covered in sweat J I have to say, though, despite the humidity, lack of air and conveniences we hold tightly too back home…I couldn’t be happier.
Completely exhausted and so glad to be in a bed! Thanks for all your prayers! Our journey begins tomorrow! Woo!
Peace and Love,
Dancing Through Life,
Regina
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
I Dare to Believe...
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Counting our blessings...
It’s been awhile since a blog post so thought I would catch you all up on what’s going on with Firefleyes and the wonderful things God has in store for the future. God continues to surprise me each and everyday. I have to remind myself that his will is not always mine, but I know there is a reason for his surprises if I just sit back and trust him. For me, this is the hardest realization that I will have to continually remind myself of for the rest of my life. His ways are more powerful and everlasting if we stop resisting him and give him the glory for having control of our life. I have to constantly remind myself of that….. every single day. Speaking of trusting God, he is testing me in ways that I often find overwhelming. Sometimes I catch myself saying “ God, why are you doing this… I don’t know if im capable of what you think I am right now. Can you just give me a break?” But the great thing is… God does not have limits. His ways surpass anything we could ever imagine! I often find myself praying for God to appear in my everyday life and show his presence in everything that I do. It’s a crazy journey that we are on in this life ….. but it’s a beautiful one if we really take a look isn’t it?
A first ever Firefleyes trip was planted in front of me about two months back. I will be headed back to Sierra Leone with my mom, Grandma, and Regina, along with a few other strong women. God told me to take this leap and jump….. how do I plan a trip? Regina and I can’t lead a team of people all the way to Africa all by ourselves!? What will we do while we are there? Where will I get the money? There are SO many details that go into planning a trip….. how will this be possible?! These are all questions and concerns that I wrestled with for weeks. I know that this will be a big mile stone for Firefleyes and it will be a life changing trip for us, to give us the chance to spread our love to the people and children of Sierra Leone. We have a few projects in the works…. SO….. let the planning begin!! Contact me if you are interested in learning about these projects and how you can help!!
On Novemeber 27th from 10am-3pm there will be the second annual Firefleyes Holiday Market Place Fundraiser at Celebration Lutheran Church in Sartell. All money raised will be hand delivered to the children’s hospital in Freetown Sierra Leone in March by me and my team. The portions of food that the babies are getting at this hospital are very low because there is simply not enough food to go around for all the children who come in everyday. I witnessed this devastation first hand in June. I held the mothers while they sat on their Childs bedside knowing that there was nothing they could do. I held the children whose bones were so brittle I thought they would break when I held them close to me. Children are dying from severe malnutrition and WE can help. All donations and money raised will be to purchase formula in hopes that it will literally be SAVING lives. Praise God that we get a chance to make SUCH a difference! SO…. Why should you come to this event??
-Over 20 vendors will be coming to sell their products, such as Scentsy, Tastefully Simple, Schepers Jewelers (gold buy back from 10-2!!!), Premier Jewelry, Mackenzies, All Things Girly, Mary Kay, Pampered Chef, Tupperware, Creative Memories, Sundog Coffee, 31, Norwex, Alter Ego, Silpada Jewelry and MUCH more!
-First 25 guests in the door will get a FREE gift bag with goodies from all the vendors!
- Christian artist Christy Freeman will be giving a FREE concert in the sanctuary from 12-2!! She will be sharing her AMAING talent, so bring everyone because you don’t want to miss it!!
- The organization The Raining Season and Kids Against Hunger will be joining us in the efforts to promote their incredible mission. You can fill out their sponsor cards and be a blessing to a child all the way across the world, or sign up with a group to do a food-packaging event! They are such wonderful ministries to learn about and get involved with, so bring your hearts wide open and learn how YOU can help!
- Last year at this event there was a collection at the door for baby dolls and soccer balls. We had overwhelming donations and made HUNDERDS of children happy all around the world with a total of 400 baby dolls and over 100 soccer balls! THIS year we will be taking donations of money or baby formula at the door. Lets fill the boxes and SAVE some lives at this children’s hospital!
We are looking forward to the event and hope to see you all there! It’s a GREAT time to get some Christmas shopping done!!
I would like to close this post with a huge THANK YOU to everyone. You have all been so supportive in this journey that Firefleyes is going on. Many plans are in the making and I know it would never be possible without our amazing father God and all of you. If you would like to learn more about the projects that you can help with, please email me or visit the web site. Read further blogs about our experience this past June in Sierra Leone. Let the stories break your heart…. Then sit with it, pray about it, and ask God where his place is for you in all of this. Have your heart wide open to God every single day. He is waiting to fill it with endless possibilities!!
As I will say until the day I die…. Take your passion and use it to impact the world.
God Bless,
Bethany